You can find yourself again after everything has fallen apart.
You may have come across a point in your life when it feels like everything has come undone.
Maybe your plans have failed, your relationship ended, or you lost your job.
Maybe the series of bad events happened all at once.
In the middle of all that, it’s easy to believe the person you once were, is gone for good.
But the truth is: You may feel lost, but you’re not broken.
Losing your way doesn’t mean you lost your worth, it just means that you’re human.
While that pain of discomfort can feel like too much weight for you to carry, it can also lead to something else.
The beginning of your new chapter.
The most important thing to note is that you’re still here.
Whatever brought you to this point didn’t end you.
It may not feel like anything major, but getting up, even when you want to sit alone in sadness, is a step forward in motion to rebuild yourself.
Through everything, your core still exists.
When you feel lost, it can help to stop looking for what you used to be and start listening for what you may become.
Ask yourself questions that don’t immediately need fast answers like:
- What parts of me survived the chaotic mess?
- What small things bring me some type of peace or happiness?
- What do I know now that I didn’t know before?
You may not be able to rebuild everything how it once was, but maybe that’s not the goal.
It could be that the pieces you pick up now will shape you into something more honest, grounded, and more you than ever before.
Don’t let the pressure of bouncing back after losing yourself, drive you crazy.
Healing, growth, and rediscovery do not follow a schedule.
There is no deadline for finding yourself again.
You are allowed to take your time.
You are allowed to not know.
You are allowed to miss the person you once were while making space for the person you are becoming.
Your progress may not look like it is making any change – it could be just getting out of bed, making a phone call, or asking for help.
All of these moments are seeds, and over time they will grow.
The journey back to yourself can feel lonely, however, you weren’t meant to walk it alone.
Connection from a friend, support group, or even a listening stranger who doesn’t pass judgement, is a lifeline that brings us back.
There’s a reason you’re even reading this now.
That is a beginning.
Honestly, nobody finds themselves once and for all.
We are always in the process of becoming.
If you feel like a stranger to yourself, it possibly could be because you have grown in ways you have not named yet.
What feels like being lost could possibly reveal itself as a turning point in your life.
Your pain does not define you.
You are not your failures, your losses, or the unplanned events that went left.
You are still walking your journey of becoming.
And that is enough to keep fighting another day.