When we were children, most of us had our parents, or caregivers, to take care of everything.
They ensured we were fed, safe, and happy, along with many other things.
As we got older, we became more independent and slowly started doing things on our own.
For example, when we were little, our parents bathed us and clothed us.
As time went by, we took our showers and even picked out our clothes independently.
Now that we are adults, there’s a thin line between independence and the support we can/should receive from our parents.
Is it okay for my mother to lend me money?
Should I be ashamed to ask my father for advice at 31?
Am I too old and should I handle all my issues on my own?
Many adults, especially men, feel as if they have to do this thing called life alone but it is believed that you can be independent yet still ask your parents for guidance and help.
Even as adults, we all need help sometimes.
Life is tough and obstacles are always going to be issues thrown your way.
But no matter what, for the most part, your parents are going to be wiser than you simply because they have been here longer than you and have experienced much more than you have.
It is okay to go to your parents for emergencies, big life changes and even emotional support.
You may be in a great financial situation and then unexpectedly lose your job.
Your parents may be the ones to help you get back on your feet and support you financially through this season.
Your savings may run out, and some parents may have the financial ability to help you get back on your feet.
There is nothing wrong with the people who raised you, helping you get out of a bind.
Just like big life changes.
You may be moving to a new city, or you might have had a new baby.
This is all new to you, but your parents may be able to provide you with the support you need to get you through life’s stresses.
Mothers can bring comfort to their daughters, or even their sons, during this life transition and can provide advice, especially when it comes to raising children.
Most parents bring a source of comfort, and they know you better than anyone else.
When you are feeling down, they are the ones that can bring encouragement.
While parental support is great, there are times as an adult that you maybe shouldn’t put the burden on your parents.
Let’s face it, they’ve done their job raising you already and have prepared you to get out into to the big world.
When you’re dealing with everyday problems like paying bills, and solving personal conflicts, it’s okay to ask for advice sometimes but ultimately, you should not be relying too much on your parents.
If so, this can prevent us from learning how to be independent.
This also takes us to asking for money.
It’s okay to ask for money every once in a while, but out goal should be to at least try to manage our finances.
Learning to budget and save is a big part of being an adult.
Lastly, making decisions.
This is your life and making decisions like choosing a career or even buying a house should be your own.
There is nothing wrong with a little advice but your final decision should be your own.
Just like most things in life, it’s all about balance.
In the same way, you need to communicate and pick and choose when to ask your parents for help, you have to allow parents the opportunity to let you go.
If parents are always there to step in, we won’t get the opportunity to grow stronger.