Everyone has heard of a family member, friend, or coworker who has been a victim of domestic violence.
And many people think it could never happen to them.
Then one day the unimaginable happens, your struck in your face by someone you loved, they say it won’t happen again, and then it does.
You’re battling between your mind and heart of what to do, leave or stay.
You know what the right thing would be to do, but you hold on to who that person you initially fell in love with instead of seeing them for who they are in the present moment.
Your self-esteem is low, and they tell you will never find better, and during a time of weakness you begin to think it’s true.
To pull yourself out of a dark space while being a parent and wanting to end a toxic relationship takes a lot of courage and determination.
No longer being someone’s punching bag.
Knowing that you deserve the best in life and that love does not equate to violence or toxicity.
Choosing to love yourself and leaving a relationship that doesn’t benefit you, is the best thing you can do to survive domestic violence.
As a survivor and a witness to losing a good friend to domestic violence, it is always best to leave the first time.
They will never change, and you should not give a person a second time to disrespect you.
Being confident in knowing that there is a life better than the one you are used to, is the first step in removing yourself.
The longer it takes you to leave a toxic relationship, the more volatile the abuser gets.
They are use to you accepting their blows, once they see that you are getting stronger and fed up, the abuse gets worse.
A good friend of mine, even though she would always leave, she eventually went back to her abuser.
Unfortunately, the last time she went back was the last time I seen her alive.
Now there are two motherless children on this earth, because she believed her would change.
In reality if it’s not a healthy relationship we are only hurting ourselves in the long run.
Toxic relationships and domestic violence can spill over into our children if it doesn’t stop.
They can grow up being a victim or being a abuser.
There are a lot of resources for domestic violence victims.
Reaching out to a friend or a outreach center can sometimes bring shame and embarrassment.
Just be strong and know that you are not alone, and you can do it.
Once you realize your strength, your mindset changes.
You no longer look at yourself as a victim, but as a survivor.
Just have faith in yourself, you determine your destiny.
You will have a higher self-esteem and prove to yourself that anything is possible.
Once you realize your potential, the sky is the limit.
Being in a toxic relationship hinders your ability to see yourself in a positive light.
Life is meant to be shared with people who truly love you and bring the best out of you.
Survivors may leave and return several times before separating from their abusive partner.
Studies show that it can take approximately 7 attempts before a survivor permanently leave.